June 4, 2010
I have just experienced breaking up with my boyfriend after about a year and a half on and off. I have also heard from several other friends that they also have experienced a breakup from their boyfriends. The following is dedicated to them and is something I wanted to share of some of the things God has been speaking to me in the aftermath that might also bring encouragement to the brokenhearted whom God promises to remain close to (For “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” -Psalm 147:3)
AUTHOR AND FINISHER
While I may not be translating this according to its original meaning, the Holy Spirit has used the passage in Hebrews 12 speak to me nonetheless. I have realized that it is God is the Author and Finisher of not only my faith but also my relationships. I really do feel that God brought me together and then also that He led me apart in my last relationship. I have come to understand that the season I had with him was a gift and for that time period God used us both in each others lives. I have also been encouraged to trust that because He is the Author of my relationships, that He will stir up, awaken, and initiate love in His timing in my future.
NOT SETTLING FOR SILVER
I am thankful that God won’t let me settle for silver but that He is intent on giving me exceedingly abundantly above all I could ever ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20). Not that the last person I was with was silver, he was gold, but just not my gold. Sometimes it takes time and commitment with a person before figuring that out. God has spoken to me big time through the following verse that I hope will also bring encouragement to each of you, and also in light because I know each of you have already read Silver to Gold hopefully it will mean even something more:
Haggai 2:8-9 “‘The silver is Mine, and the gold is Mine,’ says the Lord of hosts. ‘The glory of this latter temple shall be greater than the former…and in this place I will give peace,’ says the Lord of hosts.”
I love that its all in His hands and that the gold is going to be so much better than the silver we have experienced in our lives and that for the future He promises peace. For this I am grateful and I pray that in the midst of the hard time of transitioning out of relationships, that his peace that passes all understanding not only abounds but also has a restorative affect on our hearts.
FULL LIFE
Finally I am thankful that each one of us has chosen to live the abundant life that Jesus promised in John 10:10. Abundant life is more readily translated as full life here; a life full of joys and sorrows, highs and lows. I think we each need to pat ourselves on the back in the fact that we risked, we opened our hearts, we chose to feel and to live life rather than hide and guard and protect ourselves from anything real. It’s been very hard emotionally for me because of things that have been done after the fact and I know for some of you as well, but regardless, how cool is that we are living and alive in this world, that we are actually feeling, that we have love and lost rather than never loving at all.
May the Holy Spirit enter into our alive and wounded hearts and pour out an amazing amount of mercy, forgiveness, compassion, and hope. May the fullness of His Spirit overwhelm those deep places of brokenness to bring complete healing. May He truly prepare us for our gold, satisfy us deeply with His love and security, and let forgiveness freely flow. Amen.
2 comments:
I was wondering whatever came of that relationship. Well, your words here show that you have wisdom about it, so just wanted to affirm you in that.
I remember in my younger years knowing God had brought someone to me and led us into a relationship but I never stopped to consider that it might not be for marriage. I just assumed if God was bringing us together it was for marriage. We actually stayed together almost an entire year after we should have broken up just because we both knew God had brought us together so we thought it was wrong to breakup.
Eventually we realized that God had indeed brought us together, but He had never said it was for keeps. That threw me for a loop at first as I felt it toyed with my heart and wasn't God about commitment anyway? Holy Spirit cleared it up by pointing out that God had never told me that man was whom I was to marry. I was the one who had ASSUMED that. I had run ahead of God in interpreting His reasons for bringing us together. When I finally realized that God taught each of us some important things about relating male/female and figuring out in more detail what was really important to each one of us, then I finally had my 'Ah, ha' moment. We had a good friendship, we matured, and we were more ready for the spouse God did have for us later down the line.
Sure, we made some mistakes along our journey, but most of those came from that misinterpretation we had about the reason God brought us together. I learned that if you think God is bringing someone in to your life or allowing you to check out a potential relationship, it's best to remember His name is Yaweh, which is 'I AM' and live listening to Him for that moment, rather than extrapolating it out beyond where He meant it to throw light. Sometimes He really is just a light unto your feet, not the light unto the next 5 miles. He seems to like taking us on those faith journey's.
Melinda, great insights, thanks so much for sharing! I never knew about that with you so it was good to hear. Yes, there is so much to learn in relationships along the way to marriage. I've found that as long as God remains at the center, you can never go wrong but only live, love, and learn along the journey.
"Sometimes He really is just a light unto your feet, not the light unto the next 5 miles." Profound statement, thanks girl!!
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